Sometimes situations are not worth the bother and you have to take a step back. This ‘Leadership Wisdoms‘ article will tell you why this is important to appreciate in the hustle-bustle of a busy leader’s work.
However hard we try, there are some things that suck the very breath from us. Times where whatever we do, makes no difference and the pressure and stress begins to affect us, our health and wellbeing too.
The truth is we all have choices, and we all have the challenge that sometimes, things that face us cannot be changed directly. We can, of course, amend our own behaviours and see if that drives the changes we need. But we cannot force people to be different than they choose to be.
When people get us down, we can seek out why they behave the way they do. In most cases, unpleasant behaviours in others is not about us. We need to be resilient in how we see ourselves, or it is possible that we take their issues personally and blame ourselves for the way they are. Subconsciously, that’s exactly what they are after. To bring us down to their own level of feeling, to make them feel better.
As we consider what we can do to change this, we have options, for it’s vital to retain our own self-esteem and not be trodden over by someone else’s bad feelings about themselves. This takes a lot of personal self-belief and, especially when you might be a kind and sensitive person, it can be easy to blame yourself for how others feel. That is not your job.
And sometimes you must let go. Whether it be a partner or a boss. Whether it be a friend or a colleague. It might be a task or even a dream. Sometimes it’s time to take a stance. Before it really hurts and affects your health and well-being. You do not have to undergo that for anyone or anything.
Sometimes letting go is the best option for yourself. Do not let circumstances harm you, especially by a drip-feed ’it’s not so bad’. Be pro-active.
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